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A healthy relationship is based on
RESPECT.
It’s when:
- You have fun together
- You both feel like you can be yourself
- You can have different opinions and interests
- You listen to each other
- You trust each other
- You can both compromise, say sorry, and talk arguments out
- You don’t have to spend all your time together – you can spend
time on your own, or with your own friends and family
- You both accept each other saying no to things such as sex
- You don’t feel intimidated or controlled
- You both feel safe being with each other
High Risk? Think Safety First!
Nobody wants to spoil the fun and everyone wants to have a good
time. When you experiment with alcohol or drugs you need to have a
safety plan so that unpleasant, unexpected or unwanted things do not
happen to you.
Safety Plan for Drinking
Never leave your drink unattended
Watch the bartender mix your drink
Know your limits
Have a designated non-drinker with you or your group
Don’t drink from a punch bowl
If your drink has an unusual taste or color it may mean a
drug has been slipped into it
Safety Plan on a Date
Be aware of your surroundings

Avoid secluded areas
Trust your instincts
Go on group dates with friends
Always have your own way home in case of an emergency
Don’t be afraid to say "NO"
Problems teens report when drinking include:
Having
sex when they wouldn’t have if they were straight
Drunk teens raping or being raped
Having unprotected sex
Getting violent
Being a victim of violence
Consequences can include:
- Pregnancy
- Sexually transmitted infections
- HIV & AIDS
- Trouble with police / law enforcement
- Injuries
- School problems
- Parent / family problems

For more information on any of these issues please see the links
below.

Depression is a clinical term used to describe a period of time
when a person feels unhappy and very sad. In contrast to the normal
emotional experiences of sadness, loss, or passing mood states,
clinical depression is persistent and can interfere significantly
with an individual’s ability to function in daily life.
Symptoms of depression can include:

Feelings of despair and hopelessness
Feeling detached
Continued fatigue / loss of energy
Inability to concentrate at school or home
Changes in eating patterns (overeating or loss of appetite)
Changes in sleeping patterns (insomnia or excessive sleeping)
Frequent headaches
Frequent stomach problems
Loss of interest in activities
Thoughts of suicide

The Facts:
Suicide is the 2nd leading cause of death for teens
in Canada
80% of suicides are committed by people who are depressed
More than 3,500 Canadians commit suicide every year
1 in 25 Canadians attempt suicide during their lifetime
11 Canadians die of suicide each day – everyday
Problems that cause teens to consider suicide:
Physical abuse
Sexual abuse
Emotional abuse or neglect
Depression
Exposure to domestic violence
Divorce of parents
Substance abuse (drug or alcohol)
Experiencing the loss or death of a family member or friend
Feelings of isolation
Suicidal actions are often a cry for help and suicide can be
prevented if we watch for warning signs
such as:
- Changes in personality
- Withdrawn behaviour
- Lack of interest in everyday activities
- Lack of interest in making plans for the future
- Isolation
- Depression
- Abusing drugs and/or alcohol
- Self-mutilation
If you are feeling depressed and/or having suicidal thoughts
please talk to someone you trust and seek medical help and/or
counselling to help you get through this. If you feel that you have
nobody to talk to you can call a helpline such as the Kids Help
Phone 1 800 668-6868.
 
Eating disorders are very complex problems that mostly develop in
women but have been becoming more common in men as well. People
develop eating disorders for many different reasons such as:
Pressures from media and society
Family problems
Low self-esteem
Depression
Experiencing some form of abuse (sexual, physical, emotional)
To attempt to gain control in life

Anorexia is characterized by drastic weight loss due to excessive
dieting which is usually accompanied by over exercising. People who
are anorexic usually have a distorted image of what their body looks
like so they have intense fears of gaining weight when they are
already extremely thin and underweight.
Signs and Symptoms
Extreme weight loss
Preoccupation with weight and food
Distorted body image
Over exercising
Low self-esteem
Withdrawn behaviour
Change in sleeping pattern
Dizziness and/or fainting

Bulimia Nervosa is characterized by reoccurring episodes of binge
eating followed by a form of purging such as self-induced vomiting,
overuse of laxatives, excessive exercising, or fasting. People who
are bulimic are usually within the normal weight range so it can be
quite difficult to recognize bulimia most of the time.
Signs and Symptoms
Frequent weight fluctuations
Change in sleeping pattern
Alternates between dieting and binge eating
Low self-esteem
Disappearing after meals
Frequent sore throats
Swollen glands
Frequent bloating
Frequent abdominal pains
Dental problems due to erosion of tooth enamel

Self-harm is the act of causing deliberate physical harm to one’s
body. Self injury can be caused many ways such as: cutting, burning,
scratching, hair pulling, hitting, breaking bones, and preventing
wounds from healing. It is usually not a suicide attempt but a way
of finding relief and coping with overwhelming emotions. Self-harm
also known as self injury or self abuse is most common among women
especially youth. It is difficult to know just how common it is
though because most injuries are not seen by a doctor as people who
self-harm are usually very secretive about it.

Warning signs
- Unexplained frequent injuries
- Inappropriate clothing for the weather (long sleeves in the
summer)
- Wearing a lot of bracelets or things to cover arms
- Low self-esteem
- Problems handling emotions
- Problems with relationships
- Withdrawn behaviour
- Missing razors
- Excessive use of bandages and first aid supplies
If you are having problems dealing with your emotions and are
injuring yourself try talking to someone you trust about what is
going on. You can also get help from your doctor or a counsellor or
find a support group in your area.
For more information on any of these issues please see the links
below.
 
Centre for Addiction and Mental Health
www.camh.net
Canadian Mental Health Association
www.ontario.cmha.ca
Internet Safety
www.kinsa.net
Healthy Sexuality
www.spiderbytes.ca
Lesbian, Gay, Bi, Trans Youth Line
www.youthline.ca
Relationships/Dating Violence
www.seeitandstopit.org
www.dvirc.org.au/whenlove
www.deal.org
www.yesmeansyes.com
www.citizenship.gov.on.ca/owd/english/youthzone/preventing
www.metrac.org/programs/info/replay.htm
Manage stress, crisis and mental health problems
www.mindyourmind.ca
Depression and Suicide
www.thekeltyfoundation.org
Teen issues
www.reachout.com.au
 
Check out some of the programs offered by:
Girls Inc.
www.girlsinc-uppercanada.org
Connect Youth Inc.
www.connectyouth.ca
YMCA
www.brockvilley.com

Counselling - call office for availability
Medical - BGH Emergency Department - ARCC nurse on-call
Office - books, pamphlets, videos on a number of topics
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